Monday, 30 September 2013

Physical Appearance || Monday Insights #4


Aloha Sprinklerinos,

Merry Monday mon petite lovelies. So far, the Monday Insights feature has been really positively received so I'm happy about that. If you are not sure what this whole shibang is about, HERE is the original post to help you understand and join in.

Once again, I have narrowed it down to 15 questions so that this doesn't become too long and you don't miss your bus stop/get into trouble with your boss for reading blogs for too long!

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Last week I gave you the topic PHYSICAL APPEARANCE and here are the questions you asked -


I know we all have days where we hate our bodies, but what are some steps I can take to learning how to love my shape and accepting it?

Find a style of clothing that suits your body. For example, if I tried to wear disco pants and crop tops I think I would feel pretty down in the dumps. Give me a skater skirt and a scoop necked top though and I feel great. Once you work out which shapes of clothing suit the shape of your body, life feels a lot better. 




What are some good ways to look presentable when you are feeling lazy or are short on time?


My biggest trick is dry shampoo, hair in 'messy' bun (oohh yeah, did that mess on purpose baby), sheer black floaty shirt over a black cami top (hides a multitude of sins), skinny jeans and pumps. You instantly look 'together' and it was minimal effort. If you have time, a swipe of liquid liner and pink lipstick will go far. Good luck!



I was wondering if you ever find yourself comparing yourself to everyone else - your friends, celebrities, random people on the street - and if you do, how do you stop yourself before it becomes super negative?

Absolutely! I think everyone does. When I find myself doing it excessively i remind myself that we are DIFFERENT. Whilst we are all human woman (unless you're a man obv) we are not all clones. My friend Zoe and I are both women in our twenties with a passion for clothes and makeup but we have completely different tastes, styles and shapes. Rather than looking at her and thinking, 'I wish I could be that petite/have blue eyes/have such a pea head (lol)', I think, 'yes Zoe is all of those things but I am a whole set of other things. I have green eyes and a great bum and a lovely hourglass shape and am sooo modest haha'. My point is, it's OK to be your set of things. Value what you are, don't wish you could be what someone else is. 



How do you start loving yourself and build confidence when appearance is important in today's social life and your personality doesn't pop up in order to make the appearance less important?

I think by taking the time to stop feeling the pressure of the media and are self imposed rules and love yourself as a person. Once you let go of all of that then you are free to see all your beauty. It's a tricky one I know and something I have spent quite a few years working on. I'm glad twitter, facebook and tumblr weren't around in my teen years. 


Everyone around me (friends, family etc) want me to change my physical appearance and become more attractive so that, according to them I can "get a boyfriend". I'm not particularly interested in boys and want to focus on school, how can I get them off my back?

Tell them firmly and maturely that you don't currently place importance on finding a boyfriend and ask them to respect your choices. If they aren't mature enough to do that, ignore them. Easier said than done I know but don't engage in conversations about it and try to leave situations (ie physically walk out of the room) that bring it up. You sound like a really smart person to me. 


My Mum wants me to get fitted for a bra soon, is it really as awful as it sounds?

Nope, not at all, but I understand your fears. Wanna know something crazy? I was so afraid to be fitted that the first time I allowed someone to measure me was 6 months ago. That's after 14 whole years of bra wearing, including a pregnancy!!! It was honestly so fine, NOT embarrassing and now I wear good bras and feel great. Let your Mum take you and get it done. 


Do you ever feel pressured to look good? I often feel under pressure to look the best! 

Yes, so much. In the last few months I have actually felt so pressured that on a few occasions I snapped. I feel like TV, media and even YouTube portray and unrealistic ideal towards woman that suggests to be successful we must be ALWAYS preened and beautiful. Do I really NEED to wear makeup to do my weekly grocery shop? No. Of course not, but have found myself doing a full face of makeup 'just in case'. The pressure became so great that I actually started cancelling going places (spur of the moment) because I felt I didn't look nice enough. How insane! 

I now force myself to have 'days off' and embrace the fact that I am free to be exactly how I want. If that means wearing a hoodie and no makeup, go me! If that means looking totally glammed up, yay for that choice to. The important thing is that it is a CHOICE and not something I or you feel OBLIGED to do. Success is choosing your own way.  



Do you ever have those days when you just feel fat/ugly/horrible? Do you have any tips on how to cope with those days?

Doesn't everyone? I cope by knowing that they are just a state of mind, not a fact and that those feelings will pass. 



I've never worn make up and people always tell me I'm weird. I don't have any idea how to put it on or anything, because I don't have anyone in my family who wears make up.. they're mostly boys haha. But sometimes I think I don't fit in, so should I start wearing it to fit in and not get tons of mean comments about how weird I am???


This is entirely up to you. What I will say though is that you are not 'weird' for not wearing makeup. The people telling you that are 'weird' for thinking it. I also understand how you feel about having nobody to teach you as I was in the same position as a young person. IF you do decide to try makeup out, why not ask a nice friend (not one that calls you weird) to come and help you look round the drugstores and pick out a few easy bits. Lipgloss and mascara are good starts. 

Please only wear makeup if you want to. 




Are there/have there been people in your life or around you that thought negatively about your appearance? How do you deal with it? 


My Dad has only in the last couple of years stopped making comments about my weight. He hates the fact that I'm plus size and would be overjoyed if I lost a few stone. I deal with it two ways. Firstly, I know he does it out of love. He worries that it is unhealthy to be bigger and would like me to lead the healthiest life possible (and really, he's right). Secondly, I told him that by making constant comments, I didn't motivate me to loose weight, it only created horrible feelings and resentment. You will never be perfect to everyone (not even your own parents sometimes) but by thinking logically (although it's often hard to remove the emotion from things regarding your appearance) and being honest with them, you can lessen the issue.

If it is people you don't know saying rude or negative things, ignore them. You are not obliged to take on board every opinion you hear. 



Most adolescent girls have hang up about their appearance, I know I did, and probably still do. If you could go back and say something to your teenage self, regarding your appearance, what would you say?

"You are not as fat as you think you are. The mary-jane shoes look great on you but the baby pink cropped trousers don't. Stop over plucking your eyebrows and enjoy having super pert boobs- motherhood is round the corner!"



I'm underweight and it just runs in my genes , but people are always saying I have an eating disorder like anorexia / bulimia , that I look sick, or something along those lines. I am perfectly healthy ( the doctor always says so ) and I eat a lot ( more than most of my friends ). How can I cope with this? Or what do I say / how should I react when others call me out like that?

Tell them exactly what you just told me, it runs in your genes and you are perfectly healthy. I'd also add on, 'so please mind your own business' haha. My friend Zoe is very slim and has the same problem so I empathise. She is constantly having to fight off, 'ohmigod you're so thin' comments which to her, are as offensive as calling a bigger person 'fat'. I think just explain to people that you are fine and healthy and hope that they eventually get the message. As long as you know you're alright, that's all that matters. 



Did you find it a struggle in the early days of your relationship with Matt to be totally open in a physical sense? Even the likes of getting changed in the same room - did you do that awkward changing dance of trying to do it so no one see's?

Ooooohhh that's a toughie. The answer is no because I have always been VERY comfortable with Matt but in the days pre-Matt when I had other boyfriends- yes! I basically just did all my changings in bathrooms to avoid the awkward modesty dance! 


I have quite long sideburns and I'm a really impatient person so I don't know whether I should grow them out or not. Is there any easy painless way of at least making them seem less obvious?

May I just ask you to google image 'Kelly Kapouski'. She was one of the lead roles in a 1990's teen programme and ermihgerd she rocked sideburns. She is a hair queen. Hope that was helpful!!



People constantly comment on how beautiful my sister is and it makes me feel really awful, any tips?

Find all the things that make you beautiful (inside as well as out) and focus on them. Also, you share the same genes as your sister so I bet you are beautiful too :)


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I hope some of those answers proved useful or amusing to you and that some of you have seen your questions replied to! If yours wasn't included, I'm ever so sorry and hope that it is next week.

For Monday Insights #5, our topic will be....

MOTHERHOOD

This is your chance to ask me anything you like regarding my experiences of Motherhood. I will say ahead of time that I am in no way a 'Motherhood Expert' and I don't believe that just by giving birth you are automatically an authority on the topic, it's just something I have a lot of personal opinions on and something that features pretty heavily on this blog. So, ask away!


Toodlepip!

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175 comments:

  1. Ahhh love this! Will be taking some tips and that picture is GORGEOUS Louise! Lotsalove <3

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  2. I love these posts, you are such an inspiration Louise. I am now trying to think of a question for next week!! X

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  3. Louise hi! I just love your blog and basically everything you inspire me and I'm trying to be Happier! :) this was so helpful thank you <3 from Australia

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  4. Thank you Louise you made me feel a lot better about myself! xxxx

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  5. Thank you for answering my question about feeling under pressure to look good! It is sad that so many of us feel we need to look the best at all times. This is something that needs to change. So many of us are too concerned by out appearances and what people expect... :/ And Louise I hope it is something that can change for you, because you are beautiful and anyone would be an absolute fdjsihfdjhfbsiud to say otherwise!! Thank you for writing this post. Have a fab week! Emily xo

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    1. i loved that answer! i think sometimes us girls expect people to accept us for who/how we are and at the same time we are the first judging our own selves and other girls too. i feel like we're trapped and we dont know it =/

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  6. I suffer the same as the girl who is underweight, thanks for the advice Lousie :) Your so amazing ;) xx

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    1. I have the same problem! My friends say i'm soooo skinny, but when i tried telling them i'm perfectly normal and healthy, they just laughed at me and said there's NOOO way i'm normal!!!

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  7. Hey Louise. I am a plus size teenage girl who generally feels pretty negatively about my body. Thank you for all the positivity. xx

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    1. hi... i am a plus size girl too and I also felt really good reading this and watching Louise makes me smile every time.. I did a blog post about how I stay positive too, I hope this can help you a well... it's How To Be BIG and Confident

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  8. Louise thanks for answering my question! You put it in a new light that makes so much more sense and will hopefully help me!
    Have a lovely week dear!

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  9. I can not tell you how much I look forward to Mondays now! I love this whole idea. :)
    My question is, Did you find motherhood harder then you expected or did you know what was in store?

    Xx

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  10. How did you feel when you found out you were pregnant? Did you feel ready to be a mum? I just found out I'm expecting (I'm only 18 and at university) and although I've always wanted to be a mum and have a wonderful and supportive boyfriend, I don't know if I'll be any good, especially as I'm so young. Do you have any advice for dealing with the stigma attached to being a younger parent?

    Thanks! xxx

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  11. wonderful post louise!

    child abuse survivor blog;
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  12. Loved this
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  13. I'm really loving these posts Louise!
    From a super duper young age I knew I wanted to be a mom and I've always looked forward to it. Whenever my friends and I get on the conversation of having families, I always get really strange looks when I mention my ideal (getting married and having a baby before my late twenties). Did you ever have to deal with the "Are you crazy?!" comments when you became a young bride and mother and if you did what's the best way to deal with them without letting them actually make you feel like you're crazy for wanting something different than your friends?

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  14. Great post Louise :)

    Carina xx
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  15. This is a great post! :)

    My question (sorry if this is strange/doesn't make sense haha) - I've always wanted to become a mum, but I'm scared. These are generalisations but, children seem to be maturing earlier, the peer pressure to get the latest fashion accessory or phone etc is pretty insane, and, I don't know, the word 'respect' seems to be out of the window. I know that you have to earn respect, but I've seen a lot of children hit and shout at their parents :( Darcy is not only adorable, but extremely well behaved and well mannered. So I guess my question is - how do you do it? And how do you think you/do you let her be herself and not be influenced by social pressures?

    Thanks Louise :)

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  16. Ah this post is so sweet and mostly makes me want to home school my kids when they hit puberty. I stopped buying magazines about 18 months ago because I am sick of feeling fat and out of style. Style blogs are the way ahead for me. There are so many written by women of all shapes and sizes with different lifestyles so loads of different ideas. So much better for a Mummy of 2 boys with one on the way and a very limited budget. Thanks for the feel goods on a dreary Monday x

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  17. Hello!
    Firstly, such a great post on physical appearance! I am the exact same age as you and I wish I could accept as myself as you do. I am working on it!
    Now, my question on motherhood.
    I am 13 weeks pregnant and really struggling with sickness and fatigue, as a result my husband and I are feeling a bit 'at our wits end with one another' he doesn't understand and I want him so badly too. This has led me to think and worry about how our relationship (which is very loving and happy) will cope when our much wanted baby comes along, how did you and Matt make sure you stayed husband and wife as well as mummy and daddy? Or if you didn't, with the advantage of hindsight, do you have any tips for us?
    Thank you so much

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  18. This was just such a great blog post! I love how you addressed all these issue and question. The approach you have promoting positive body image and being happy with your self is so refreshing. I think this really helps in a time where we are blasted with images of "perfection" everywhere. Thanks so much!!!
    Katrina
    Mountainbeauty2013

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  19. I love these post's! They really cheer my Monday up =]

    My question for next week is How are you feeling about Darcy starting Pre school/Primary school?

    Jess xx

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  20. loved it
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  21. Every time you talk about loving yourself, I love myself a little bit more. Your confidence and even your own self consciousness is so refreshing. You are a real person, not a Hollywood creation, and it's so good to have someone like you telling people they're beautiful inside and out. It's much easier to believe coming from someone so relatable.

    About mummyhood, do you ever feel as though Darcy has taken anything away from the relationship you and Matt had? I've been married for 8 months now and absolutely adore having my husband to myself. So much so that my dreams of having a baby of my own are sort of slipping away in fear that I may not handle sharing my husband well. Does this seem like a valid concern or is my head going a bit crazy with the whole newlywed 'mine mine mine' thing? No matter what, a baby is still a few years (at least!) away.

    Thank you! <3

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  22. Even though I am far from being a teenager now I still struggle with my appearance on a day to day basis and put unnecessary pressure on myself constantly, I still can't leave the house without makeup on! I 100% agree with you that I am so glad the likes of twitter and tumblr were not around when I was a 16 year old girl
    xxx

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  23. What were your worries before having baby glitter about motherhood, and how many of those worries were found completely unnecessary now that you are a mother?

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  24. I love this feature. its a nice way to get to know you in a topics kind of way rather than lots of random questions.

    Carrieanne x

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  25. You look SO MUCH like darcy in the photo for this post! Thank you for taking the time to answer so many questions! You help others more than you realize :)

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  26. Is there any right time to have a child? I'm 20 and i've been with my man for 4 years, i have severe M.E and he is my carer. We're hoping to have a child in a few years time but some people look at us like we're stupid and disapprove. Any advice?

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    1. I think the right time to start a family you'll feel in yourself and the person your with will to , i feel in myself that once people reach and have that level of contentness, comfort, stability and happiness together in their lives then they can plan for the future and make the decisions as you take those steps together.


      This might be going traveling together, having a house of your own, buy your own car , your own dog or a career or anything. Once you've found that contentness then you have the foundations for a happy home to bring another life into. That's just my opinion though , theres no rushing things take each day as it comes and let things unfold as you go along.

      When it comes to other people lastly its your future and life, sure peoples circumstances and situations are different but it shouldn't stop someone being happy thats what I think.

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  27. My sister is pregnant and she is having a baby shower but the problem is, it feels like she's bought a lot of the things I was going to buy for her! So, if you could have been given one gift before you had your baby, what would it be?

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  28. I love these posts Louise! Keep doing them :) xxx

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  29. I hope this is not too personal but I would love to know whether having such as negative experience with your stepmum as a child ever made you worry whether or not you would be a good mother yourself because of her example? x

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  30. Everytime I read your posts, I feel a little better about myself and a bit more confident! I know this is the same for a lot of your readers so thank you, sincerely, for spreading so much positivity and promoting a healthy body image, whatever your shape or size!

    In regards to mummyhood, I have a massive dilemma.

    I'm 19 and have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. We've lived together for a year and a half in his mums house, and she constantly tells me how much she wants us to have a baby. We'd love a baby, but we know we're not financially (or probably emotionally or anything else-ally!) stable enough to support a child. There are so many things we want to do before we even think about it. I also miscarried about a year ago (I had no idea I was pregnant, as I was extremely ill at the time and all symptoms were covered by that), so even talking about babies really hits a nerve. She talks about it so much and put so much pressure on me that she's putting me off, even though I know I would love a child one day. How can I explain that I'm not ready, without hurting her feelings or squashing her hopes of being a grandmother?

    I'm sorry it's so long!

    xxx

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  31. I think what you put was right louise just feeling comfortable in yourself and wearing what will make you feel better about the shape you've been given it definitely the way to go, girls who are more curvy or skinny can both feel the same way its just finding that happy point that makes you think yep I look pretty good.

    Last point on the pressure to look good, I think at the end of the day if your pressured to look and be a certain way your not enjoying and openly being yourself because you feel you have to fit the bill and this itself is tiring ever likely you snapped! At the end of the day whether people have make up days off or wear it everyday or with whatever pressure they're getting in life as long as your comfortable in yourself it shouldnt matter what other people think or say and nobody should ever pressure you to be something your not wanting to be. What do you think?

    kate x

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  33. yay you answered my question and called me a smart person :) love you Louise and thank you for the advice! :D

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  34. Hi, I just wanted to ask you a question for next week: How long were you in labour and what is it really like?

    Thanks so much :), your answer to the Q about skinniness reminded me to realise my friend's thinness is likely inherited from her mum and therefore I should stick by and not judge her.

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  35. Love these posts.

    Whenever a night out is suggested I cannot bring myself to leave my two boys with a babysitter (even if said babysitter is a close family member). I worry that my children may have an accident and get hurt if im not there (my eldest, who's two and a half is very adventurous and can lift himself over a stair gate within seconds and has a 'thing' with turning taps on) and I feel guilty at the thought of leaving to go and have fun without them!

    So my question to you is, how do you cope with going to an event/on a date night etc, without Darcy?

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  36. Do you ever wonder what your life would be like if you hadn't had Darcy? How do you think motherhood has changed you? xx

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  37. Love this post so much!! Thanks for this post and the advice you've given. xo
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  38. Great topic, I sadly didn't see your last weeks post for some reason, so I couldn't ask anything :(
    xx

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  39. Do you ever freak out about the fact that your married and have a kid? Does it ever just hit you one day and make you feel overwhelmed?

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  40. Every single word you said was an inspiration and motivates me to look at the brighter things in life and also in myself. Thank you Louise, you're just the sweetest! :D <3

    xo Citra
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  41. Thank you for the incredibly helpful advice, you truly are an amazing person :D

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  42. I think I said this last week but I'm going to say it again......you are such an inspiration xxx

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  43. Oh, I love these posts! :) My question for you would be whether you always knew that you want to be a mom and have a family!?! I'm 17 now and I don't know what to think about it, so I would love to read about your experience and whether your life right now is as you have imagined it when you were a teenager! xxxx Helena (excuse my English, it's not my first language!) <3

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    1. Your English was perfect! I don't know why you need to make excuses :)

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  44. I don't really want to interfere in your blog plans, but could you maybe do a University thing of this series? I think I am not the only one who is applying at the moment, so i think this would be really helpful :) thank you in advance :) xx

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  45. I've always wanted to be a mum and have children of my own but recently I've been freaking out about all the logistics. Having sex, morning sickness, contractions, and of course having the actual child. Would you say that it's all worth it in the end?

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  46. These posts always make us look forward to Monday! Loved that you name-checked the absolute BABE that is Kelly Kapowski too. Amazing reference.

    Eve & Faye x
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  47. I love your motivational posts on Mondays! I've always had such issues with my physical appearance since I was young. Always a love and hate relationship. It's not til recently that I learned to appreciate my body for what it is.

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  48. I love these kind of posts! You make me feel soo much better about myself as I am really insecure about my body.

    My question is, how was your pregnancy? I know some people enjoy being pregnant, and others don't, I would like to know how your experience was. (:

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  49. You are really good at giving advice Louise! and you make me feel a lot better about myself :) Love you xx

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  50. I'm only 15 but for about 3 years now I've had the strongest urge to become a mother. It's gotten a bit ridiculous - whenever I watch a movie where someone has a baby, or see a family in the park, or anything, I get all mothery and I want to have kids. What would you recommend for me to be satisfied where I am?

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  51. i think i need to write this on a sticky note and place it on my mirror: " it's OK to be your set of things."
    <3 once again, thank you !

    Barbs

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  52. I love these posts sooo much Louise! My question is, do you feel that having a child holds you back from many opportunities? Love you xxx lipsticklovexo.blogspot.co.uk

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  53. Great post Louise. I love how you are so honest and open. Us plus-size girls should not be afraid or embarrassed to dress nicely! As long as we live healthily, there is nothing wrong with a couple "stone" more.

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  54. I love this post. Its really an inspiration and you just made me feel a lot better :)

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  55. Louise you look so beautiful in that picture, even when you're doing that face ahaha :)
    Thanks for answering my question!!

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  56. i love how you make everyone feel good about themselves! Whenever I feel down I always come on to your blog :)

    Rachel x
    Style Soup

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  57. What are some of the things you're looking forward to as Darcy gets older, and what are some of the things you'll miss as she gets older or even that you already miss from when she was a baby?

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  58. Your advice is always so inspirational Louise, thank you!
    Has the experience of giving birth to Darcy put you off having another child?

    Charlotte xxx
    http://charlottesconfashions.blogspot.co.uk

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  59. I love these Monday Insights! They are always so intresting and now especially when I'm ill it was the highlight of my Monday! The tips are great!

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  60. Great post & very interesting!

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  61. Hi lovely Louise!
    I have a little boy just a bit older than Darcy (he just turned 3). I wanted to ask how you deal when you have a particularly stressful and difficult day? Because I find that many times, when I have one of those days and he is being a little clingy, I tend to take it out on him. I know it is so unfair and I feel crappy about it, so I really want a little advice on how to cope with those situations, and I would also like to know if I'm the only one?

    BTW, inspired by you, I started my own blog and it has greatly reduced my stress levels, providing me with an outlet to express my feelings and also to get inspired and share happy moments of my life, so thank you for that! lots of love!

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  62. Wow Louise this blog was so helpful, your answers were so honest and not just something we wanted to hear. I love you so much, such an inspiration.

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  63. I've ALWAYS wanted children, as I'm an only child I feel like I want my life full of little people! The only thing is I haven't started my period yet, everyone my age started years ago and I'm so scared I'm infertile. It would absolutely crush me :(

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  64. Great post Louise!

    My question:

    What is the most gratifying part of being a mother?

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  65. Your advice is always sincere and helpful. I admire your opinion on physical appearances in that everyone should learn to love what they've been blessed with and that we shouldn't compare ourselves to our siblings, friends, celebrities etc because they also have at least thought or even stated their 'imperfections' once in their life. I don't really have any questions on motherhood but thank you for doing this unique series of Q&A. Have a fab day Louise!

    Essence of Jess

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  66. Did you plan to have Darcy? What was your reaction when you found out you were pregnant and how did you go about telling friends/family? x

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  67. Did you plan to have Darcy? What was your reaction when you found out you were pregnant and how did you go about telling friends/family? x

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  68. Your blog always makes me feel really happy and better about myself, thank you so much for all your lovely help Louise xo

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  69. i just love you louise! ahhh you are so helpful xoxox

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  70. Thank you Louise, what a great post!

    I'd like to know if you're the kind of girl who knows what she's gonna name her child..and what made you pick Darcy? (I don't know if that's outta context, I'm just curious!)

    x, nessiejudge.blogspot.com

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  71. This is so inspirational!... My question is, what advice will you give to Darcy to help her face her teenage years? Or what was the most difficult thing you have faced since becoming a mother?xx

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  72. What, for you, was the hardest thing you have had to do/given up since being a mother?

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  73. Do you ever fear that you're not parenting something correctly and what in particular?

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  74. Thank you Louise! You are amazing! I send this to my best friend that is not feeling confident ( not that I'm super confident ) and I hope that will make her feel better!! You are an inspiration! xxx

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  75. I love you Louise. You've literally made my day with this post. I just love you so much, you just seem really nice and very helpful!
    xoxo
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  76. I worry so much about my physical appearance at the moment! I have put weight on in the last year and I just dont feel myself in my clothes anymore! My boyfriend says he doesn't want me to change because he loves how I am but its mainly for myself that I want my confidence back, I want to wear clothes and not think I look bad in them! This post has made me think about to many things and helped me realise that I just need to be comfy and love who I am :)

    Katie xx | Katies World

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  77. awh louise this was such a beautiful blog, i love your blogs please never ever ever ever(thats a lot) stop blogging because you just cheer me up every time i see you have a new video or new blog post! eve you little random tweets about your day cheer me up! i do have a request if you could at some point do a blog on maybe helping me choose a college because i know im not the only one but this sort of time i need to start applying and i have no clue what to do! please could you maybe give me some tips and what you wished you had done? thakyou!
    ALSOOOO please come check out my blog because you are the one who inspired me to create a blog and it truly is something that i love loveee doing!
    love you louise<3

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  78. You never fail to make me feel better about myself, thank you for this! x


    Maddy from UNSTITCHEDD 

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  79. Louise I just wanted to say you're SO SO PRETTY and STRONG (and that even makes you more beautiful)
    I'm from Portugal and I love your youtube videos and blog posts :) xoxoxoxo love from portugal

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  80. Louise, what a wonderful post! I love how you answered the questions, but I wanted to add something to whoever asked this question (if they even read this comment): "But sometimes I think I don't fit in, so should I start wearing it to fit in and not get tons of mean comments about how weird I am???"

    No, you should not wear makeup just to fit in. I agree with everything Louise said. However, if you really do want to try it out, start small so you stay comfortable. If you want to wear make up just get a light eyeshadow that is similar to your skin tone with a little shimmer and a basic mascara. That way you can add a little sparkle without leaving your comfort zone and still looking fairly natural. I personally only wear makeup about 2 or 3 times a week, but I do that because I think it is fun. My husband actually hates it when girls wear heavy make up and prefers all natural looks. Same with my mom & dad. There are plenty of people out there who don't wear makeup and don't like makeup, just like there are plenty of people who wear it and love it. The makeup lovers just seem to be a little bit more vocal. Just remember, if you don't want to wear makeup there are PLENTY of people who love you and think you are beautiful just the way you are.

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  81. Thanks for this post, ily :)
    You look so cute in this photo by the way! my fav make up on you definitely (and my fav make up look ever i think) x

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  82. Thank you so much for your share Louise! You have such a fresh mind and I love reading your post! Thank you for being so amazing :)

    xo Mel
    Conquer your fears with me

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  83. Love this blog post, I find it very helpful!
    I have a question, when you were pregnant did you think you were going to have a girl or a boy? xx

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  84. Love this post Louise! And you look gorgeous in the picture!
    www.heavenlyclutter.blogspot.com
    xo

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  85. Its so nice to listen to people with the same views you and to realize that everyone's actually in the same boat, thank you!

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  86. Louise i was having a bad day today about this problem and read this blog and it put a smile on my face and made me feel better ! Thankyou :)

    http://beautyisblogging.blogspot.co.uk

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  87. What was your biggest fear about becoming a mum? Or did you not have any?

    http://laurenslittleblogs.blogspot.co.uk/

    xx

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  88. Oh Louise you and my blog makes me feel so warm and fuzzy.
    catrinteleri.blogspot.co.uk

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  89. What a wonderful answers you give, Louise! I struggled with the way I looked pretty and I always thought I wasn´t as pretty as my friends and I wouldn´t be able to find love, EVER. Well that turned out fine. I´m 17 now and I´m feeling so happy and confident. I found my own way of wearing make up and clothes and I can actually look in the mirror in the morning and think: 'wow Lieve, you look great today'. That makes me so happy and I wish all girls my age would have the ability to find that confidence and beauty within themselves.
    I'm sure you make it easier for them, so thank you for doing that!

    xxx from Holland

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  90. It's nice to see some good, honest, heartfelt advice instead of people who just say what they think the reader wants to hear! :) glad we can always count on Chummy xx

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  91. I think you said at some point Darcy was a planned baba - how did you know you were ready? How different was the reality of having her compared to what you though it might be like?

    xxx

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  92. Aw this post is so brave! And you look so much like baby glitter in that photo it's unreal! xx

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  93. Do you ever worry about Darcy struggling from things like depression when she gets older, I know it's a rough topic but that's what stops me from wanting children...x

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  94. You are truly amazing Louise, Motherhood Question: What was the deciding factor on becoming a mother at a "young" age?

    Kirsty x

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  95. How did you know that you were ready to become a mummy and what have you learned since then?

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  96. In regards to motherhood.

    Did you ever days where you wished you could just pack up and leave? Or that this little baby has zapped everything that made you you?

    I am in no way implying that I hate my daughter with this question, I just had days where I found things, my day to day life difficult and I think that no one ever wants to talk about the bad moments or admit that they struggle
    x

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  97. Hello Louise! I adore these posts and absolutely love your writing style :) my question for next week is: how can you describe the pain of child birth? I really want a child but am terrified of pain! Xxx

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  98. Ooh I forgot to ask a question :3 what names, apart from Darcy, were you considering naming your baby (if there were any) ^_^ xx

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  99. Hi Louise you are such an inspiration to us all!

    Couple of questions for your blog post next Monday:
    Does having a baby hurt as much as people might think?
    Do you think there is an "appropriate" age to have a baby?

    xx

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  100. Hi Lousie, I'm 18 years old and my biggest dream is to have children. I have this huge fear that I'm not going to be able to have children or I'm going to fall in love with someone who can't had children. All I've wanted for as long as I can remember is to have that mother's love for a child. As I'm still quite young people think I'm crazy when I tell them this (especially guys that i know) how can I get over this as I'm obviously too young to have a child?

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  101. This may seem weird but it's something i've always wondered. It's kinda hard to phrase but essentially i suppose what i'm asking is what is it like to be a mother. My question is: does it ever just hit you that Darcy is actually your baby girl, that you 'made her', and that there is a mini version of you and one of the people you love the most?

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  102. Since becoming a mummy are there any special life lessons you have learnt, as a result of raising Darcy?

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  103. May i just say that it's probably weird how much i look forwards to monday insights :') also i just wanted to tell you how flawless you look in that picture :)

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  104. Hi Louise, I am a big girl as well and have always struggled with my self esteem especially since my sister is a lot thinner and often gets comments about how she should be a model. Reading your blog helps me to see myself in a different way in which no one else could have done. You inspire me to be better and to love myself. Thank you so much :)

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  105. Louise you are such an inspiration for me. You have NO IDEA how much you've helped me accept my body as it is. I relate so much to having parents making comments about my weight and I know they want the best for me, but having that constant reminder and pressure does no good for me. I still struggle every time I look in the mirror, but i have gotten better...and it's mostly because of you. Thank you and ily <3

    xx
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  106. amazing post! You changed a coup of ways I was thinking about differen issues. I love these posts, keep on posting

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  107. Aw yay you answered my question :) thank you Louise x

    My question this time is: how do you juggle being a mother and making time for yourself/being your own person?

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  108. My mom is the same as your dad only she still continues to make comments about my weight. It's really nice to hear someone else's parent does the same thing and gives me hope that it will eventually stop!

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  109. This was a beautiful post, and I love how body confident you are! That said, thanks to your Kelly Kapowski comment, I MUST go watch SBTB reruns!

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  110. These answers are so good! Really helpful!

    x leah symonne x

    itsleli.blogspot.com

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  111. Really good tips. Loving your blog. I started my blog up at the beginning of this month, would be nice if you could take a look xxx

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  112. Question for next week: I'm am NOWHERE close to being age enough to even be dating a person and thinking about marriage with them, let alone motherhood haha, but how different is a relationship from before Motherhood to after? Which do you like better? Do you think going on nights out and things like that with your significant other is more fun and exciting before or after motherhood?

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  113. im only 22 and almost all my friends from high school have babies or want babies and i am no where near ready to even think about it so i cant really relate to them anymore how do you tell your friends nicely that baby talk isn't interesting to you without hurting anyones feelings?

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    1. i love reading your blogs about baby glitter this was no way directed towards you i love you louise its just uncomfortable to be around girls who i hang out with and thats all they talk about...

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  114. First of all, Baby Glitter is one of THE most adorable things ever...
    Second, I feel as if I'm not married or haven't had a recent steady boyfriend by the ages of 30-35 that I'll never find the right guy. If this doesn't happen I plan to adopt, because I want a baby more than a guy. Would you rather have a child or a husband? Do you think it's weird for a woman to want a child more?

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  115. Reading this has made my Monday so much better. Your advice will give me something to remember in those times that i'm not feeling my best about myself.
    Thank You So Much Louise!!
    Lots of Love, Erin

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  116. I have a health problem (PCOS) that will make it difficult or impossible to become pregnant in the future. I am toying with the idea of adopting but I know I would still love to have that motherly feeling for a baby in my own body. Do you think that adopting can be just as satisfying as having your own child?

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    1. Hi Sweety, sorry to but in but just wanted to say people with PCOS can still get pregnant! It just may take a little longer than normal or with a little help from specialists. Everyones case is different, but there is still a 60% chance of being able to concieve with PCOS. Don't give up hope xxx

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  117. Hey! I love your answers, they're always so natural, honest and great! That's why I like your blog so much and you :)

    About motherhood : I'm 20 years old and I don't dislike kids, I don't like them either. When people talk and ask me if I want kids, always say no, I'm more of a career girl, and they always say, you can have both you know. The thing is, I know, I mean Madonna! Anyway, I know I'm weird sometime but people just can't stand the fact that I don't especially like/want kids, or I don't find them cute! I don't feel the NEED to built a family and as women It's kind of our thing, babies and family right?! I feel like it's something you should do at least once in your lifetime, to raise a child, but I'm really not into it. The only reason I'd raise a child is to not be alone once I'm old and all... which I think it's not a great reason.. When you get pregnant is 'mother-love' something you get or some women are just made to be childless? I feel so terrible about this!

    Sorry this was quite a big question! :\ xx

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  118. This was lovely Louise, thank you. You always give such good advice

    XoX

    amyhurstreviews.blogspot.co.uk

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  119. Hi Louise!

    This topic couldn't have come up at the most perfect time!
    What books/websites/blogs would you recommend to a first time pregnant 26 yr old? It's all very overwhelming! I just wana find a guide with lots of good advice and simple what to expect! Thank you darling and omg you do look just like Darcy in the picture above! xxx

    www.ukbabyblog.com

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  120. Thanks so much for everything... it's so nice to finally see someone that thinks it's ok to be your self and love you that way. I am 20, allways been single so your life gives me a lot of hope.. I may not end up eaten up by my cats after all! Yayyyy.

    I have a question for the new topic and before I ask it I just want to say that I really hope I don't affend you or make you sad because that is really not the point :( I am just currious to know...

    Has the fact that you lost your mother young affected the way you are with your daughter? Was that a difficult thing to handle?
    I ask because I grew up without a father and I am affraid it will be difficult for me to be a parent when I lacked one.

    Thank u if you answer my question, and even if you don't!

    Love , sophie xxxx

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  121. I absolutely love this new 'Monday Insights' business. You're really great at giving advice and I'm sure you'e helped soooo many different people. Love you, Louise. xx

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  122. Omygod, you answered my question, I feel like crying :') I'm such a HUGE fan of yours and you are such a big inspiration to me (:
    Thank you SO much for answering my question! It was really helpful and made me feel so much better about myself - as well as ALL the questions you answered as well :))) It also makes me feel better knowing that someone else feels the same way - and the stunning and confident Zoella? I would never have thought ...
    So thank you again SO much Louise! :)))
    I love that picture of you above! :))
    Love, Hannah...<3

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  123. You're just so flippin inspiring! I wish I thought in the same way as you did, but reading your blog posts always gives me a push in the right direction =) xx

    Squares - Bookworm and Beauty Enthusiast

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  124. What was your biggest worry when you found out you were pregnant?

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  125. Really good tips. Loving your blog so much!

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  126. I'm only 17 but for some reason I'm worrying a lot about becoming a mother. Like what if I don't know what food to buy for what age? How will I know the difference between them crying for attention or hunger? Im not pregnant and don't plan on being for quite some time but I do worry about this stuff all the time!

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  127. Really thoroughly enjoyed reading this post! It was so helpful, especially the part about remembering that you are different when you compare yourself to others. Thank you for this, and more of these please xx

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  128. Really liked this topic...Thanks :)

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  129. I'm a 16 years old and all I've ever wanted is a family. Even as a child when teachers would ask 'what do you want to be?' I'd think: a mother. I always knew it wasn't the answer they were looking forward though, so I'd say teacher, lawyer, marine biologist ect! I've always felt isolated and somewhat embarrassed. My friends all talk about fame and money, and while I feel left out, I like to think that maybe at least my dreams are achievable. Am I normal? Not an hour goes by that I don't think about my future

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  130. Hey louise,
    I'm almost 38 weeks pregnant with my first bubba. Eeeek, so excited to meet the little one!
    What are your top tips for those first couple of weeks of being a new Mum? Are there any 'life saver' items you would recommend?
    Abigail x

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  131. Do you ever have moments when Darcy is sick or hurt herself where you just have no idea what to do?

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  132. What are your thoughts on disciplining children? And do you ever worry about spoiling Darcy too much? xoxoxooxxooxoxoxox

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  133. Were you scared to give birth? Were you worried that it would hurt? I have read your blog post on your pregnancy, and I feel like you went through so much pain in the process. How did you deal with the knowledge that giving birth is painful?

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  134. I loved this post. I've always known I wanted to be a mother but the idea of childbirth scares me so much. Is it as horrible as you imagined it would be?

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  135. My first question would have to be have you always known you wanted to be a mom? Because as crazy as it may seem, I have known since I was a wee tot that I wanted children of my own. But I feel that in our society now, it's almost frowned upon to only persue motherhood or only pursue a career. Somehow we are expected to want both. I'm currently in university getting a degree in psychology and sometimes I wonder why I'm bothering when I am positive I'd like to be a stay at home mom. So after all that rambling, I guess my question is "How important do you find having a career other than being a mother?"

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  136. This post definitely helped me in so many ways.
    My question is that; As a teenager, have you ever freaked out at the thoughts of motherhood? I imagine having childrens in the future but the thoughts of having to go through the process just scares me.

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  137. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year (he's 21) and I can see marriage and babies in the future.How did you overcome the judgement of being a 'young' mother?

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  138. I can empathise with the underweight reader as well. I'm naturally slim with a petite figure and it also runs in my genes. People are always like 'Wow, you're so thin. I bet you don't eat much'. And it's annoying because I do and I really do enjoy food! And they actually don't believe that I eat quite a lot (for a tiny person at least), which makes it even more annoying. And I completely agree with Zoe and the thin/fat offensive comments. People don't really get how annoying that can be.

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  139. My husband and I have been on the fence about when to start our family. We want to start one while we're still "young", but want the timing to be "perfect". HA! I know there's no perfect time to decide to start a family, but we also don't want to rush into it without thinking things through. What were some of the main things/concerns you and Matt had to work through or decide on when you had Darcy and how did you guys handle it?

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  140. Hi Louise, I'm 5ft10 and a size18-20 and I've just found out that i'm pregnant. Whilst I did not plan this pregnancy, I'm feeling really guilty about being overweight when pregnant. There seem to be so many condemning articles online explaining all these complications that can be caused :S ahh! Did you receive any criticism or feel guilty about not being a super healthy size while pregnant? If so how did you deal with it?

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  141. Me and my husband have been 'trying' for a family nearly 3 years now (give or take) with no success sadly as we would both love a family. I just wondered does it really 'work' in the sense of if you don't think about it you have more chance? Also how did you both decide when you wanted a family or did it just happen?

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  142. These posts are so entertaining to read, love them! I was wondering if there are any aspects of motherhood that you haven't enjoyed? Obviously you love being a mother and Darcy is precious but, have there been any moments where you've felt like you weren't quite prepared? xox

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  143. What were some of the things that maybe overwhelmed you about pregnancy/having a child, and what would you say to yourself beforehand to prepare or inform yourself? x

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  144. Were there ever times during pregnancy where you really struggled and wanted it all over with? If yes, how did you cope with those feelings? xx

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  145. Posts like this are amazing, they just totally boost your confidence and makes you feel like you'er not the only one xx

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  146. Louise!! you look beautiful in that picture! and the post was amazing - I've recently been trying not to care that the extra cakes that used to go unnoticed are appearing on my hips - i prefer cakes to running! ;)

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  147. Thank you for these posts Louise!

    Here is a question I have been afraid to ask anyone and that I am really worried about. I know about most of the changes to your body after pregnancy (ie boobies, weight gain, etc.) but how goes it "downtown"? How long does it take to recover? I know it can't be the same as pre-baby but is sex super different? SO AWKWARD! I cant bring myself to ask anyone I know!

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  148. Thanks for your inspiring words Louise! You are such a genuine and amazing person!!

    Carriegirl89.blogspot.com

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  149. Hi louise! So i want to be a mother when i grow up but im terrified of the pain that comes with giving birth. Should i let it scare me out of having my own baby or am i imagining it worse than it really is? Thanks! Love you :) <3

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  150. Hello Louise :)

    Is giving birth really as scary as you thought it was before you had Darcy? I'm still only young but the thought of it terrifies me so much. I've always played pretend mum but now the reality is so scary im worried i will stop myself from having children when i am older.

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  151. Really enjoying my Mondays now! Gives everyone something to look forward to <3

    Here's my question: How did it feel to have a little person growing in your tummy? ~ Hope that wasn't too much of a odd question

    X

    http://littlejadelittledreams.blogspot.co.uk/

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  152. Louise, you are truly great! Every time I read one of your blogs the overall witty tone puts a huge smile on my face. Literally, I grin from ear to ear. I'm glad I found this little piece of paradise.

    Best wishes,
    Yoli

    http://justyolis.blogspot.com

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  153. Question: When you were younger (pre pregancy), did you have expectations of what it would be like to be a Mum that make you think now "hmmm, what was I thinking?"

    Love your blogs, youtube videos, everything! And I love Monday Insights!
    xx From Down Under

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  154. What was it like having Darcy almost right after you got married to Matt?
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  155. You look so beautiful in that picture Louise! (infact, I think you actually look like Darcy quite a lot there... like mother, like daughter! =P) I know from reading your old blog posts that Darcy's birth was particularly hard, but my question is:
    in the few days close to giving birth, did you get really worried about the pain and if you did how did you cope?
    I'm a bit of a wimp when it comes to pain, so I'm concerned I will freak out too much if I ever get pregnant...
    Thank you, I'm really loving these Monday Insights!

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  156. I can't believe your extreme positivity! Looks like it's gotten you through a lot, good on ya girl!

    * If anyone enjoys films and beauty, check out my blog please :) *

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  157. I absolutely LOVED this monday insights! you advice made me realise a lot! I'm not the most confident person, but you taught me to love myself, and be positive! you're an inspiration louise, thanks for this beautifull blogpost!

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  158. This is great advice! You really are amazing at giving advice! Loving the monday insights :)

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  159. Absolutely love love these posts! please keep them coming! :)

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  160. Ah thank you so much for answering my question, it is so nice to relate to someone that I really look up to!
    My question was regarding showing yourself to its fullest eg getting changed in front of Matt etc.
    I wish I was a little more like you in the early stages of my relationship with my current boyfriend.
    We have now been together for 5 years now so clearly I didn’t need to worry and now I don’t at all! It is so nice to be able to prance around absolutely starkers and not have a care in the world that he would be thinking – hmm your love bumps are getting a little too large/small/wobbly. If it ever did get to that stage, I think I would really need to revaluate my relationship!!
    Luckily I believe it when he tells me I am beautiful and even at times struggled to accept that he loves me when I struggle with loving myself, he has really helped with my self esteem and I now feel worthy of having such a lovely person in my life. I don’t know if you have ever related to that?

    Thank you Louise, it means a lot that you picked my question after undoubtedly receiving a hell of a lot!

    All my love and best wishes you beauty, Rheya xx | PixiRella

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  161. I love these post, you always seem to make me feel better about myself! .ox

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  162. Louise... you are truly an inspiration :)

    Greetings/ Farewells from Canada,
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  163. I know it's a bit far off but are you worried about Baby Glitters teenage years at all? Just wondering because I was quite unruly and a bit of a tearaway so it's always something I would worry about if I were to have a daughter.

    I like to think I've fully matured now though! At least I hope haha. Love your blog Louise!

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  164. Ever since I went to uni my weight was all over the place (no exercise, lot's of alcohol) and my dad also commented on it a lot. Like you said, they do it out of love. But it sucks. It sucks that even parents put pressure on their kids to 'look' a certain way. I sometimes honestly wonder if my parents were doing this stuff out of love or just trying to hint that I'd fit in better if I looked 'right' or something. Nowadays I'm getting older, my weight's settling down (I've stopped drinking and I've been treated for depression and anxiety) as is my skin, so there's no need for my mum to tell me I have to wear make-up to work (that one sucked, A LOT) I feel a little better, but I know now that the problems I had (depression/anxiety etc) were NEVER to do with my weight, but the issues OTHERS made about it. I think this was a brilliantly inspiring, intelligent post Louise and i'm hoping to address my own experiences with this issue on my blog.

    Xo, Ellen.

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